Adeline is running around the house naked from the waist down – her new favorite thing. Suddenly she runs into her bedroom and grabs a diaper from the diaper drawer in her dresser. She brings it to me and asks me to help her put it on. A few minutes later, she poops. Then she comes and tells me, “I pooped”, and we change her diaper. This is just one of the reasons I think we might be getting close to potty time.
But I don’t want to push it. A recent article suggested that potty training too early can lead to all kinds of health problems for your child. At our 18-month doctor’s visit they gave me a handout that similarly stressed the importance of not potty training too early. And, as long-time readers will know, my instinct is to be gentle and easy-going about all changes and developments with Adeline. I’m not even all that bothered with changing diapers.
On the other hand, Adeline seems really interested. We have a mini potty for her and she loves to sit on it. She thinks flushing the toilet is awesome, and she LOVES her undies. She’s getting better at dressing and undressing herself and she can communicate really well. She hardly ever wears a diaper at home any more, which does lead to some peeing on the floor. Or on me. Which is warm. And wet. And disgusting. But I digress.
All of this got me wondering if the time was right, so I pulled out my copy of The No Cry Potty-Training Solution. I’m lucky enough to have the whole set of No-Cry books, which I LOVE, but I’ve been pretty good about waiting until they’re actually needed to get them down and read them. So this one was still brand new. I managed to read almost the whole thing in one evening. I guess potty-training is more enthralling than I expected.
The book was great, as usual, but the best part was a really in-depth analysis of whether your child is ready to potty-train. It looks at all the important factors, including your child’s awareness of going, her ability to communicate and undress, her understanding of the process, and, perhaps most importantly, your own readiness and willingness.
It turns out, Adeline is ready. And yet, I don’t think we’re there yet. Maybe I’m not ready. Not ready for going to the potty every thirty minutes. Not ready for pit-stops at gross public restrooms when we’re out and about. Not ready to actively teach her how to use the potty. But really, maybe what I’m not ready for is to let my baby go. Because even though I know she’s a toddler now, once she’s using the potty, she’s really and truly a big girl. Can’t she just stay this age forever??
When did you potty-train your kids? How did it go? What process did you use? And how did you know both you and your child were ready?