** A collection of articles and other fun stuff from around the web. Mostly dealing with babies, parenting, moms, etc. But not always. **
Don’t Call Him Mr. Mom: The Rise/Reign of the Stay-at-Home Dad (Gender roles, stereotypes, and who cleans the kitchen better?)
Why cavemen were better parents than we are today (How evolution meant us to raise our kids.)
“Childist” Nation: Does America Hate Kids? (A fascinating look at the prevalence of anti-children attitudes in this country.)
5 Reasons Toddlers Don’t Need “Redirection” (And What To Do Instead) (Your child deserves to have her feelings respected, rather than to be distracted and her feelings brushed aside. I can’t lie, though, I’ll probably still use redirection when a tantrum is imminent…)
How to Stay Calm? The Same Way You Get to Carnegie Hall (Practice, practice, practice.)
** Friday Phone Photos **
We found the blue door again
Adeline likes to take a book to bed and “read” herself to sleep. Pretty much the cutest thing ever.
I won a magnum! I correctly guessed that there were 435 corks in a giant vase.
Charlie’s new favorite bed is Addie’s old changing table
#photoadayjune #Empty – one of my all-time favorite songs
Adeline and Izzy at the Pearl Street Farmers’ Market
Adeline and Darcy swimming with their daddies
#photoadayjune #closeup
Imagination has officially commenced: Addie wrapped this baby doll in a blanket, hugged it, put her finger to her lips and said, “Shhh, whisper.” I said, “Oh is the baby sleeping?” And she said, “Yes.”
#photoadayjune a #sign
Riding on Mama’s shoulders
#photoadayjune #hat
Sharing her wagon with her friends
#photoadayjune a #drink – I’m trying to drink almost exclusively water… it’s going ok.
I’m not sure I agree with the redirecting article you posted. I think mirroring is the best way to allow a child to feel understood and before they can express their emotions you are really putting your own words in their mouths.
Now that my son is almost 3 1/2, he is just starting to clearly express his own feelings and they aren’t always the words I would have chosen. The other day he was throwing a fit me not having a certain toy he wanted when we were out and I asked him why he was so upset. He responded that he was “so worried about where my car is” – I might have said sad or frustrated. Instead I mirrored back that he was so worried and I was sorry and we would have his car when we got home. Because of this I’m not sure talking to them repeatedly or extensively about their feelings is great at the toddler stage.
However, I do agree that redirection should not be a replacement for boundaries. I never forgo the rules for enticement. If we are leaving the park and they are having fits I say “I know you don’t want to leave but it’s time for bath [or bed or lunch, whatever]. Do you want some cheerios for the ride home?” (you know me and snacks).
Thanks for sharing as always Sara!
PS – love Ray LaMontagne
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